Marriage/Couples Therapy
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Looking for something more? Try Concierge Counseling
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Dr. Gornto’s Approach to Marriage/Couples Therapy
Dr. R. Scott Gornto has a growing reputation with couples for getting to the bottom line and identifying their cycles quickly and precisely. Clients frequently leave sessions with Dr. Gornto saying, “We got more out of that session than….”
Additionally, Dr. Gornto is known for helping the most challenging couples. Frequently, therapists, psychiatrists, attorneys, pastors and physicians refer couples with the greatest troubles to Dr. Gornto, because they know he can make a significant difference in their progress.
What makes Dr. Gornto’s clinical work unique:
- His ability to connect and read people
- He spots the central issue(s) quickly with precision and clarity.
- He assists client to transform unhealthy behavior and produces long-term change.
Dr. Gornto’s innovative Auxano Approach© emphasizes two fundamental concepts: Connection and Growth. These two concepts are the catalyst for long-term change, giving life to the best version of you in your committed relationship. His approach assist you through conflict, empowering you to stop reacting, and, ultimately, give life to the best version of you. The result is a deeper friendship, partnership, and intimacy in marriage – leading to calmer dialogue, increased fulfillment, relational satisfaction and a passionate and meaningful sex life.
Based on Dr. Gornto’s Auxano Approach© to Relationships:
- Break Emotional Gridlock and Unhealthy Cycles
- Communication/Conflict Resolution
- Discernment Counseling
- Divorce Counseling
- Emotional Reactivity/Conflict Resolution
- Establish a Relationship Identity and Shared, Future Vision for the Relationship
- Family of Origin Work
- Infidelity/Betrayal Repair
- Intimacy (Emotional, Physical Non-Sexual and Sexuality)
- Parenting & Blended Family
- Relational Therapy
- Sexual Addiction/Recovery Couples Therapy
- Sex Therapy (Couples, Abuse/Trauma, Physical and Emotional Problems with Sex)
Tracks
Track 1: Couples Preventative Maintenance Track
(50, 75, 100 min. session – 2-4x a month)
For couples who both are committed to the marriage/relationship and are open to the process of change and healing. This is NOT for couples who have recently experienced a life changing marital/relationship event such as infidelity/betrayal, emotional divorce or separation.
Track 2: Marriage/Relationship Repair
(50, 75, 100 min. session 1-2x a week)
For couples who both are committed to the marriage/relationship and are open to the process of change and healing. These couples may be experiencing struggles such as significant conflict, communication problems, family of origin issues, long-standing resentment, emotional reactivity, partnership problems, parenting/blended family issues or intimacy struggles. Some couples take advantage of this track who are dealing with significant issues such as infidelity/betrayal, emotional divorce, separation or discussing divorce.
Track 3: Mixed-Agenda Couples (Discernment Counseling)
(1-6 sessions, 50 min. each, including joint and individual sessions)
This track is for mixed-agenda couples where one partner is leaning out of the marriage, struggling with whether to stay in or get out of the marriage. The other partner is leaning in and ready to do whatever it takes to save the marriage. Research tells us that 30% of the time, couples come to therapy with one partner leaning out and one partner leaning in. Successful marriage counseling is not possible unless you have two partners who are leaning in to the marriage and are open to change. Discernment Counseling provides another option for couples who aren’t ready for marriage counseling, because one partner is leaning out. Discernment Counseling is a process that creates a holding environment or container for the couple to gain more clarity and confidence regarding the future of your marriage by achieving a deeper understanding of the negative patterns that got them to this point in the relationship. Additionally, with the guidance of an unbiased third party, the couple works to see if the marriage is worth saving. Lastly, this path is for couples who want to see if there is a possibility to can create a third option, meaning they want to see if they can create a new relationship. They don’t want to get divorced, but they can’t continue in the marriage as it is currently.
Track 4: Divorce Counseling
(50 min. session 1x a week)
When couples come in for marriage therapy, Dr. Gornto works with the couple to exhaust every healthy option in order to avoid divorce. However, some couples choose to get divorced. As a result, Dr. Gornto provides counseling, guidance and support to couples and individuals who decide to divorce.
Divorce counseling offers the option to stay connected to your care and love for one another while changing the parameters of your relationship.
Divorce counseling options include:
- *Conscious uncoupling
- *A Structured Trial Therapeutic Separation or Healing Separation
- Negotiating the early stages of a divorce
- Healthy communication and co-parenting through the process of divorce
Whether you’ve been dating for a year, or married for twenty years, the ending of a romantic intimate partnership is an exceptionally painful situation to face. It is common to feel overwhelmed with feelings of grief, despair, fear, anger, sorrow and guilt. It is natural to mourn the loss of such an important person in your life. You must grieve not only the person you have loved, but also let go of the dreams and hopes you held together for your relationship. Separation does not have to be rife with hatred, resentment and spite. By mindfully and consciously uncoupling, you can part in a healthy and loving manner. Psychotherapy and Counseling can help you achieve this.
*Consciously uncoupling refers to the act of ending a marriage or relationship, but in a way that is seen as a positive step by both partners. The couple chooses to continue to remain friends, co-parent if they have children, and for some couples, they still have significant love for each other.
* A Structured Trial Therapeutic Separation or Healing Separation is a step to separate for a period of time to reduce reactivity, tension and/or long-standing resentment. These are considered working separations, where you dedicate yourself individually to your own personal growth without the conflict of the relationship. The goal is to strengthen both partners individually to see if there is a possibility to build new, healthier relationship.
